Welcome to 21 Days of Selfpleasure with The Skinship!

It's winter, most of us are locked in, we are home alone and civilization seems to collapse – that's exactly the time when queer masturb4tors go to work! 😉 For real, we couldn't think of a more perfect moment to devote 21 days to building (or deepening) a habit of mindful and f*cking powerful daily self-pleasuring!

Beyond getting off quickly to ease the tension of these days, beyond sinking deeper and deeper into P0rnhub holes, into Dating App Doomscrolling, beyond endlessly se›‹ting people we'll anyways never meet (all of these can of course be healing, cute, exciting), a daily practice of reconnecting to our bodies, of getting to know our ar(o)usal and er(o)tic flow more deeply can be a source of immense power and expansion. When we cultivate language and sensitivity around our own body's needs, we also create space for more loving relationships with the people in our lives.

This album comprises all the audio instructions and guided journeys we've been creating during the first iteration of this Queer & Pagan "Advent Calendar" that we held together with 400 participants from World Aids Day to Winter Solstice 2020. In this way we want to make them accessible to a wider crowd as well as for those who want to get back to it, as many of the original participants requested.

Please note that the requested exchange s t a r t s at 21€. This is our absolute minimum request and we encourage you to put in this amount or any amount above that, aligning with your resources. We understand that for many people, this is a lot of money, for others, it is easily possible to give 3 € instead of 1 per day. So feel into it and give 42, 63, 112 or 210 € :-)

The revenue will support us in establishing The Skinship as a touch-based, physical space in Berlin, centered around queer, trans* and NB experiences as well as feeding our cute asses. Us, that is a group of 5 facilitators from various backgrounds who are connected to The Skinship: Ayo, Daniel, Eve, Mel & Pawel. Find out more about us in the description of the individual tracks.

The original format was a Telegram group that people could use to share about the experiences and also to receive the instructions of the day. With these files you can recreate this experience at your own pace, while still knowing that many others have been and are doing it alongside you. We are happy to receive sharings and feedback via email! :-)

It is often stated that during the run of 21 days, new habits can be effectively engrained into the body-mind. Based upon the feedback shared within our group, literally all poeple who committed to the full experience, taking one hour each day to tune into themselves and their authentic desire-wires, reported a palpable shift in their relationship to themselves and their level of aliveness. Many described this experience as life-changing. Let's see what it is like for you. No expectations lol ;-) Recommendation is to go day by day but also take days off, repeat, whatever feels right to you and your nervous system.

We recommend to first read the written preparatory notes before you tune in to the instructions (you will find them in the track description of each practice and also in the bonus PDF that is attached to the downlioad). It is also recommended to set aside one hour a day for the whole practice. Even if you don't feel like doing any practice, the invitaion is to still be with yourself for an hour each day, listening to your body, doing what feels most noursishing to your body. Rest gently at the edge of your comfort zone. Pushing most often won't work, and still: aliveness is very often found beyond a threshold that we might hesitate to go through at first.

Please make sure to request emotional support when needed. The topics we are dealing with for sure are centered around pleasure, but most often, when we embark on a journey into our authentic pleasure, we will be passing through layers of contraction, heavier emotions and also trauma. It is advised to stay present with the impact that this work has on you and to request support if needed. You are also encouraged to seek out the facilitator who has been guiding the excercise if that would feel helpful.

You are not alone in this.

Many people have been forming study groups with our material already and reported that it was a lot of fun and a form of deepening relationships to share this with friends. This allows you to be held in a community (even in times of social distancing) and to increase the joy and commitment by regular sharing around the practices and the impact of the program.

Gift this to your friends and start together! :-)

Don't hesitate to contact us for further questions. Enjoy, share, spread the love!

Yours queerly, Skinship Nest